I recently read a piece written by Seth Godin, who I definitely recommend you reading some of his stuff. This particular piece on his blog was titled “Validation is overrated”. I couldn’t agree more with what Godin said, however, I find myself waiting for validation all the time. It’s a hard notion to overcome because we all want to be accepted for who we are and valued for what we do. I like when he says “you’re handing over too much power to someone who doesn’t care nearly as much as you do”. It’s so true. Why do we let people control what we do and when we do it by making us wait for a “good job” or pat on the back? Do what you want to do and what you enjoy doing. Set goals and accomplish them for yourself, for your own satisfaction, not for the approval of someone else. Take back that power and have confidence in your abilities. Don’t be afraid of defining your own meaning of success. It’s easy to get caught up in society’s definition of success, which is generally working for a big company, making a lot of money, having nice things, etc. But shouldn’t true success be accomplishing your own goals in life, be it personal or work-related, doing something you enjoy and are passionate about, and having pride in who you are?
“A man who wants something will find a way; A man who doesn’t will find an excuse.” – Stephan Dolley Jr.