After the final rose

Anyone else watch the finale of The Bachelorette Monday night? I got sucked into this season about halfway through it. I have to say, I was team Chris all the way. However, I can’t help but be a skeptic. Yes, as a hopeless romantic, it’s a guilty pleasure of mine to watch these shows. Hopeless romantic or not though, my inner skeptic always shows her face by the time the final rose is handed out. I mean, who wouldn’t fall “in love” while traveling around the world, going on exotic adventures and having the most luxurious, romantic dates of your life? Without the daily stressors or work or bills or any responsibility other than tipping back that glass of wine every day and deciding which guy you’d like to go on a date with next makes it pretty easy to get caught up in the moment with your feelings. But….then it’s over….then it’s back to reality….then you have to actually be a couple in the real world. That bubble you’ve been living in gets popped.

A friend of mine suggested that they hold the same show in a Walmart and let them date there for a few weeks. The couple that can make it fun and enjoy each other through that is probably more likely to make it in the real world.

Yeah, I’d watch that show.

At some point in our lives, every girl dreams of the fairytale. We want to feel loved and cared for, we want the ring, the white dress and the happily ever after. So, naturally we are going to be drawn in to shows that feature a woman who has that same dream.

I did find myself able to relate to the bachelorette. In my time dating, I have had a few loves. I put my all into a relationship and wear my heart on my sleeve. With that, like Des and as sad as it may be, I have never had anyone love me as much as I have loved them. The funny thing is, skeptic or not, this hasn’t stopped me from continuing to love or from loving any less. It’s in our nature to desire this basic need in life. What I’ve learned over the years though? Fairytales do exist, they just don’t always happen like you expect them to. So, if you haven’t found the love of your life, don’t give up on it. Let it surprise you instead.